How to correctly ask a person why he added me as a friend? Why are strangers added as friends on VKontakte? The purpose of adding as friends

Hello! Tell me how to politely ask a person for what purpose he is being added as a friend in in social networks? This is important because I mainly want to use the network with maximum benefit and add people on business who can offer cooperation or be useful in some area. I would like to use a question to weed out those who are added just like that, or for the sake of quantity. Thank you! Christina

Experts answer:

Hello Christina. No matter how tactfully you ask about the purpose of adding as a friend, it is not a fact that they will answer you honestly. Usually, after adding in the process, it will be clear why this or that person wanted to be friends with you. For example, I deleted all my daughter’s classmates from my contacts page, because the kids send me all sorts of nonsense like games and applications that I’m not interested in in principle. But there, by the way, I have a group dedicated to this site http://vk.com/club26449791. Here you can chat on current topics according to etiquette. As for your question, ask directly what friend candidates expect from you in terms of online communication, what their needs are, and how you can be useful to them. There's nothing wrong with that. THANK YOU FOR YOUR QUESTION!

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what to answer the question the purpose of adding in a contact? I added a boy in contact and he asked this question and got the best answer

Answer from Nikolay Rumyantsev[newbie]
tell him you want him

Answer from Natalia[guru]
I'm conducting an experiment: "who will add me as a friend?" ahaha...

Answer from . [active]
add me.

Answer from Iuslan Barabin[newbie]
Anyone who asks such questions in contact is undoubtedly a person who has little understanding or does not even understand what PR is, including self-PR on the Internet. Moreover, people who ask such questions are “ineffective” users who are unlikely to show any activity in adding you as a friend. at least this is what practice indicates. that is, even if he adds you as a friend, it will be of minimal use in a practical sense, because such users are most often passive consumers of content, and more often than not, consumers who are always dissatisfied with something. If we do not take into account issues of PR and all sorts of promotion, then it seems to me that this user is simply a bore, fixated on some kind of Internet threats and, again, poorly versed in these same “threats” (pseudo-threats). Well, my answer to the question specifically posed here is this: if you submit a friend request for the purpose of PR/self-promotion or promotion of your groups, then write directly (although I personally, when a user asks me a similar question, I simply ignore it and cancel the request , because I don’t want to waste time on such people). but this is of course at your discretion, each individually. i.e. I am simply describing purely my opinion and my position on this matter in the case of self-PR or PR of groups. Your opinion may naturally differ from mine. however, if you want to see the user as your friends for the purpose of personal acquaintance and friendship (or even more), then IMHO, again, it is best to write it as it really is. i.e. just write the truth. Well, then everything will depend not on you, but on whether he believes you, and, naturally, on whether he is suspiciously paranoid in life or not.

Answer from Yergey Yakovlev[active]
AND FOR WHAT PURPOSE DID I ADD IT? I LIKE THIS SO SO YOU CAN WRITE AND ADD ME AND LET'S TALK! Sergey Yakovlev

Answer from Yovyatogor[guru]
Well, then tell me what you want. Chat, there, sex without obligations or create strong family. Why are you writing to him? To be honest, it also annoys me when the hell out of my friends comes and, when I ask the question: “What do I owe?”, he simply disappears.

Why do chewers add themselves as friends on VKontakte? And then they get offended when asked, “What is the purpose of the addition?” Why add silently if you are not familiar and have nothing in common? Why not write something yourself, like it, if you really want to real life It’s not destiny to communicate. Why is everyone so lazy with these social networks?

Virtual communication is very different from live communication.
Here you can anonymously look at other people's pages, go to the profile of the person you like without worrying that he will find out about it, you can write on someone else's behalf, hide behind other people's photos... In a word, be who you are and do what you can do in real life be uncomfortable, scared...

You are describing very typical behavior of young girls on social media. They often make friends, especially guys, in order to appear more popular or have more status. This is a way of self-affirmation, raising low self-esteem. Privately inhibited girls, whose social lives are not particularly active, try to compensate for this in the virtual world.

Regarding the reaction to the question about the purpose of the addition. Girls may have a stereotype that guys should take the initiative when meeting people. In her mind, she had already taken the first step by sending a friend request. The question may put her in a somewhat difficult position. On the one hand, if it’s just a mass addition, there’s really no goal, and if you like the guy, it’s not always easy to get over yourself and write something.
Filter requests, be a little more lenient, because even in contact you can meet someone dear to you.

Good luck:)

I also don’t understand when strangers are added and at the same time are stupidly silent) Maybe she thinks that she has added herself to you and thereby already taken the 1st step?)) They probably expect that the further initiative should come from you.

You should ask a specific girl why she was offended by the question and added. How can an outsider know 11% of this, judge for yourself.
We became lazy because laziness is a mechanism for intuitively recognizing the meaninglessness of a task being performed or simplifying the task. Why would I climb a mountain for thyme if it grows in my garden?

Girls are added as friends for a variety of reasons - they sell something, they work somewhere, they lure you somewhere, you need a lot of friends, they found the person interesting, and they were familiar with the person before, but you never know what they might be causes?
Why do you care that they are offended if they don't know each other?
If there is no answer to the question about the purpose of adding, don’t add. The people who join you can have very good motives, or the most nonsense ones.
If a person is interested, they like him, write to him, and so on. If this bothers you, start with yourself. :)
Like, write, communicate. In this case, you will not care about the individuals who are added for some reason.
Good luck.

They can be added for various reasons.
Apparently, they are offended because they perceive this question aggressively, like “Who is she? Why are you adding to me?” Write something softer, like: “Good evening! Do we know you?”
Well, don’t bother, maybe they’re waiting for you to ask first. So ask if you're interested. And if you’re not interested, you don’t know who it is, then just don’t add or write, that’s all.

To read the tape. Apparently, you have a very interesting, bland profile and life is in full swing.
I then remove such people after giving them a few months. And when accepting as friends, I inform them that they are only when people I know in real life or very well interesting people people you want to meet

To be honest, I don’t understand this either. Why do strangers ask to be friends? Apparently this is needed for something. I don’t ask anyone I don’t know to be friends. Others, perhaps, do this so that their real friends can see how cool they are, more than a hundred friends, and the fact that all these people are fake is important to them. Or they make money from this, every advertisement they distribute is like, everything is paid for, maybe because of this. If you don't want it, don't add it.

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The answers are either people very similar to you, or your complete opposites.
Our project was conceived as a way of psychological development and growth, where you can ask advice from “similar” people and learn from “very different” people what you don’t yet know or haven’t tried.

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