Only broken heart does not hurt. How to cure a broken heart. She has no old friends

I heard the phrase recently that in our times the hearts and hopes than cars are more often broken. Therefore, it is not at all surprising that many of us would prefer to see a broken car than a broken heart broken ...

Disease history. Symptoms.

After all broken heart - This is emptiness, she pursues. She seems to be enveloped and seems to have no way out. Dead end. Why is it going on? Maybe she loved not? And why not that ...? He is the best, kind, cute. The best. And is it to blame that he still loves his "former"? What said, sorry, let's stay friends. To blame? Yes no, there is no guilt in this ... Is that what he told him once that he loved, puzzling ... But she told the truth ... she also had love, and not alone ... and there was also a lot of pain from what she I thought that he loved, but they did not love her ... She is also a special, the other is the best. But they do not like it, and perhaps they did not love ... hurt. She will not forget him now, perhaps never ... But you need to let him go ... many live with such pain, and live ... And she will live, as before, only without him, without his eyes, hands and smiles ... Live as Yes, others without him ... He was the meaning of her life, the sun, infinitely warm and joyful. And now it rains ... Damaged gray rain on the street and in her soul. She no longer have the strength to live on without him ... He took part of her, perhaps the most important. She stayed alone with her sadness ... The heart is broken!

How to glue a broken heart? Treatment.

1. After severe parting, many are closed in themselves. Want to be alone to sink, think, cry. It is necessary to pay. With tears, all accumulated negative emotions within you come out. But the idea is not the best. Nearly there are always people who you are not indifferent: friends, close, relatives, colleagues. So they will begin the first to conduct resuscitation activities with your heart.

2. Let yourself do everything that the soul is cute, despite the consequences, at least a few days. Celebrate Celebration, "Belly Holiday", Rest in your favorite place or where you have long been dreaming, come across yourself (hairdresser, spa, swimming pool), buy yourself a new dress or insanely expensive underwear. Or maybe a parachute jump or flight in Aerotrub? Do everything that would never have decided in the "former" life. The attention of the men, of course, is always important for us, but you will understand that it can be impossible without it. You need to live for myself and for yourself with your beloved, get the maximum pleasure and joy of life.

3. And here famous techniqueHow to cure a broken heart.

Mentally imagine the channel connecting you with "EXTA". By closing the eyes, we present two tubes for which the energy circulates between you. Again mentally, we take scissors and cut the tube in half. Ends, suitable to you mentally overclock. Wounds on the heart will begin to grow together, even if not immediately, but it will become much easier.

4. Try to load yourself as much as possible. For example, work. Empty therapy at all times was an effective tool in cordial affairs. Free time for experiences and the Duma should not remain.

5. Emissions from the head Idea to revenge formerly. No need to prove to him that you were the best with him, and how much he lost. We must try to forgive him.

Remember the last time about your joint beautiful minutes, tell him mentally thanks (only mentally!), Because thanks to him you were very happy for some time.

And you can already switch to other men!

6. Psychologists argue that one of effective ways He is complaising to his trouble. Aloud. In front of the mirror. It is believed that it helps to relieve stress. I, as not at all, psychologist, I advise you to finish this therapy in front of the mirror of a couple of funny face. You are now more than ever positive emotions.

7. Do you know such a wise phrase: "Everything that does not kill us, makes us stronger"? Scientists believe that the brain is needed on 21 days to rebuild on anything new, whether it is a new job, study, or new life Without him and with a broken heart. After three weeks, even if nothing to be taken theoretically should become easier. Wounds on the heart will begin to delay themselves.

8. If nothing helps at all, then you can contact the psychologist -Specialist of the deeds of heart, who always has glue for broken hearts. It is not necessary to record a full-time reception, you can talk with a psychologist over the Internet. According to statistics from the Moscow Psychological Assistance Service, people are extremely rarely asked for assistance due to relationship breaks (300 for 20000 cases).

9. The most important thing is "not", contraindication: not to treat a broken heart with alcohol. First, for health and well-being - this is a simplicity therapy. Secondly, coming out due to control, the case can reach the night lacrimal calls. All previous attempts to cure the broken heart "Cat under the tail". Vicious circle Some!

Meetings and parting, gaining and loss are the inevitable part of our adorable life. And no matter how hard it was at first, restore spiritual forces and cure a broken heart possible. But even qualitatively protracted wounds, they leave scars for the rest of his life, unfortunately ...

Parable of a broken heart

Hello, I'm on the ad. Do you give a heart in good hands?

Yes. It loved three years of one person.

Well! Three years of operation are quite a long time! Why give?

His last owner applied with a heart not for its intended purpose. He broke it, cut him, played with him, stuck sharp items ... The heart was sick, bleeded, but still performed his main function: he loved him ... And one day the one who belonged him, broke it ...

How broke?! Have you been to repair? What did you say?

Recovery is not subject to ...

Why did you file an announcement? Do you really think that someone needs your broken heart?

I believe that there is a man in the world who can glue it from fragments. I believe that he will not regret it love and time. I believe that he can give him a second life ...

- I ... I'm ready to try. This, of course, will be difficult, but the result is worth it. Can you give me any guarantees? If I can restore it, I can revive your heart ... How much can it be able to love?

While it beats ...

In the ad, you indicated that gave the heart only under one condition ...

Yes. I must be sure that you will not hurt him.

Unfortunately, I can't see the future. I can not confidently promise to you that it will no longer suffer ... everything that I can today is to give you my heart in return ...

I agree!

I also arrange all the terms of the contract.

So let's meet tomorrow?! For exchange?

Yes. Goodbye, my love.

When you start a new relationship, you have to be attentive to trifles. You can blind her attractiveness, your feelings and even that simple fact that you will have a chance to sleep with her. There are warning signs that she will break your heart and the relationship from the very beginning doomed.

When the relationship is destined to be short and they are doomed to failure, it makes sense to be selective and finish them before going too much time and you will spend too much strength on them. For your own good, we advise you to pay attention to warning signs.

1. She has no old friends

This girl is a real social chameleon, drifting from one interesting social group to another. She constantly makes new friends. Sounds cool?

Yes, probably, but you can not be with her nearly long enough to find out for sure. If she has no permanent friends whom she knows for many years, it can mean two things: or no one can take it out, or she cannot do without constant change. Both of these reasons make it impossible serious relationships, and sooner or later she will break your heart.

9. She is new to the relationship

If you are looking for serious relationships, meet a girl who has no one before you, not the best choice. She can be much younger than you or just inexperienced - if you have different experiences, you will not hold out for a long time together.

At first, all this her naivety will seem cute you, but soon she will start annoying you. Despite all sorts of advantages with a person who has no emotional baggage, it may not know what it expects from a man. There is a chance that she needs not you, and this true sign that your heart will be broken.

3. She needs a lot of space.

She is freedomizing personality and does not like when it is limited. When you start to meet with her, she will definitely tell you that she needs a lot of space to do his own business. She itself sets the borders: how much time she will spend with you, and how much one. If you find the strength to it get used to it, it still can work out, right?

Do not teach yourself illusions. The one who appreciates his personal time and the space is so strong, not very considered with others. You will see her once a week and it will be fine for her, but in the end she will break your heart.

4. She made a long time for too long

You followed her on the heels of the month, and she all played with you in the cat-mouse. You gave her flowers, called on dates, made different romantic gestures. She finally agreed to meet you, and then everything turned out, because so?

And here is not. If she builds a little bit from himself, it means that you simply are not interested in her. She simply wanted to felt his ego, and she agreed to be in the society of a person who did not have the soul in it. When her self-esteem returns to a normal state, you will no longer need her, and she will break your heart.

5. She hovers in the clouds

Some people are never satisfied with what they have. They have high standards and aspirations, and it attracts, but if she has some unrealistic expectations, then your chances are small to funny. This can be anything: money, glory, new life or impeccable relationship - she can dream of any things and at the same time will definitely break your heart if the option becomes more similar to her dream.

6. She shists you

Acquaintance with friends and family of your girl is the same expirers, it's like a shot in foot: hurt and painfully, and others think that you are not particularly suffering because the wound is not fatal. In the end, you meet with her, and not with her family. Why does this acquaintance have this meaning?

And again, why does she not introduce you to them? We all went through it, we all had the girls with whom we did not want to acquaint friends and the family, and they remained our invisible girlfriends. Why? By different reasons: That thick, then terrible, then abnormal.

7. She does not have a particularly significant former

Meet the girl who has never had a serious relationship seems to be an excellent prospect: it does not expect from you compliance with its standards of real love, And you do not worry that it will suddenly pulls her former life. She is a clean canvas, which you can turn into an ideal girlfriend for yourself.

However, a girl whose resume relationship consists of only two-week intrigues, not for you. Perhaps she has its reasons for the fact that she does not seriously meet with anyone: she does not want. And you can hardly make it change this opinion.

8. She has serious problems

All their cockroaches. Nobody is ideal, everyone has shortcomings over which you need to work. However, there are such people who are more like a walking problem than a person.

It may be problems with alcohol, drugs, sex, loneliness or gambling. If there is something in her life, which constantly puts you to the background, this relationship will not last long. Maybe it sounds highly, but you deserve something better than always to be on the second roles.

9. She has close relationship with the former

In case your girl is able to save a good relationship With former, it may seem good affair. It seems like hinting: she is a mature person and does not turn parting into a performance. In the end, you know that it will not turn into a demon under any circumstances if you do nothing.

In reality, this is a sign that it will only bring you harm. This girl easily switches between the "Lover" and "friend" modes. This fact means that it is not able to create strong relationships.

10. She had someone when you met

You started to be together when she came with another guy. You might think: "Well, it's good, it's a little wrong, but now everything goes to the way." No, with such a girlfriend, nothing will go. Treason is always treason.

When she starts to tell you every day about something about a new guy from work, when she constantly delayed the bar with girlfriends when she wants a little longer time for herself, it may mean that you have already found a replacement. Already feel like your heart beats on the part?

And finally

We all know well that many relationships end with nothing and do not pass by time. It makes no sense to sit and wait for the weather by the sea. If you look at this list and understand that one of the items will apply to your girlfriend, perhaps you have something to think about.

All that does not kill us, kills people close to us.

Broken Heart.
Fracture of the heart

I don't Wanna Die.

NOW I CAN SEE Your Pain I "M Sorry
Goodbye.
I Cry SO Hard
NOW I CAN SEE Your Pain I "M Sorry
Goodbye.
I Cry Tonight

Now I can feel your pain, forgive me,
Goodbye!
Square breaks me the soul.
Now I can feel your pain, forgive me,
Goodbye!
These are my tears in the night.

How I got this world. I want to climb the roof of the skyscraper and jump down. Finish everything. How I dream to break up ... How I want to be broken, confused on small pieces. I hate life, I hate!
But once he dreamed of being immortal ... immortality ... torment. True torment. To live infinitely, knowing that you will never be able to get rid of this life, you can not leave it.
Hate, she ... Probably it is she makes me live. Or maybe not. But every time falling asleep, I dream to die. Just do not know how ...
I want to experience what you experienced. TU pain. I want my body to break away from unbearable pain. And then I die. How do you. I will leave just like you.
And, having meets you someday, I will be happy. I embrace you. And now ... I can't do it. Just because I can not. And kill yourself ...
Maybe I'm a coward, but it seems to me, you would be upset. And in general ... how is it all stupid!
No one knows when we die. But partly it in our power. And partly no. You always said that we would not die. But you deceived me ... you lied to me! You promised ... promised ... And I believed you.
But how hard time. It killed you. To break all the hours in the world ... All-all. And then time died. Forever and ever. And people would be immortal. But I do not care about other people. You would be immortal as me. And then your dream would come true ... You hit this all my life.
Why did you want to live so much? I have repeatedly asked you about it. You always answered that because of me. But was it so? Now everything is equal. Yes, and then everything was the same, nothing has changed. We always did not care about people. But why is this question gave me? Probably because I am a realist. And I know you will never answer him.
I will no longer hear your voice ... I understood it for a long time, but when I thought that there was no more you, every time it seemed to me that I understand everything again. As if I learned it every time for the first time. It was worth only the thoughts about you just to stick into the head ... I got hurt. But it's not a body ... I have shower. I did not find myself places. Hate everyone, I wanted to die.
And then, as if flowing into oblivion, took. Wrapped around the room, beat the walls of the wall. And you were not there and no one calmed me. I continued hoping to break my fingers. But, alas. I did not break my hands. I broke my heart.
It happened when I just found out about your death. From the moment to today it torments me. Broken heart never grow together. It is impossible to apply plaster on it or insert the needles. It breaks, suffer, hurts and throughout his life slowly dies. I could get rid of him ... But then you would really die. The body is a trifle. While you are in my memory while I think about you, let it kill me, you are still with me, you live. Nonsense, but live. And most importantly, live in me. If I kill myself, you will die. The thought of you makes me squeeze from pain, but I am ready to live like that. At least in order to never forget you.

Today we will touch on the topic of breaking relationships and ways to get rid of the pain of parting. We will talk about the fact that we represent relationships on thin, deep levels, as "crash" our heart, and why we experience such pain.

What does affection look like in the energy level

Relationship is one of the most difficult aspects of life. But even more complicated relationships are their gap. It is difficult to find a person who would not come across parting, divorce or separation with a loved one. That is why it is so important to talk about broken hearts. Before you start, we want to make a reservation that the heart can be broken up to breaking relationships. In fact, many people are in a broken heart relationship. In this case, the relationship has already ended, but inside, at a deep level.

Love someone means to become one with a person in one way on the emotional level. For a person, this is a natural state and in it he feels great. At the level of vibrations, we are synchronized with the source frequency. And on the contrary, breaking relationships means to separate. And this is an absolutely opposite source vibration. This is not a presence, but no energy. This vibration frequency is the worst possible.

The essence of parting

All partitions are essentially betrayal. Betrayal - this is violation Contract or agreements. When we love someone, we are in a state of energy agreement, an invisible contract that implies unity. When separation occurs, be it physical or energy, the contract is terminated. As a result, we feel devotees. Any betrayal of emotional agreement, be it humiliation, treason or criticism is cause of alienation Two people.

So why are the gaps so painful? As already mentioned, love someone - it means to consider yourself with him in one. In parting, no matter if you were his initiator or threw you, you lose part of yourself. At the emotional level, parting is felt as amputation, as if some important part sliced \u200b\u200bfrom you.

Very often we hate people with whom they broke up. The reason for this is simple : Hate– defensive reaction In response to pain. It's kind of covering emotion. Your body activates survival mechanism if you encounter negative emotional experience, which represents the threat of your life. The body intuitively proposes to respond in such a way that the frequency of vibrations become higher. In psychology, such a phenomenon is sometimes called secondary emotion. You can call such emotions covering because they protect against lower vibrations, sitting like ice on the surface of the frozen lake.

Hate, covering a feeling of pain, helps people to avoid those terrible emotions that arise as a result of a break and separation with a loved one. Obviously, when a person feels hatred, with great probability his heart is broken. It is necessary to work with the pain that hides behind hatred.

Why do we feel that the heart is broken

Cardiac chakra is located in the center of the body and among other things is responsible for communication, integrity, love and compassion. Cardiac chakra unites. That is why so many organs and systems in the body (for example, blood circulation system) are associated with it. These systems make the body in one whole.

When we test the gap, similar to the sensations with amputation, the most suffer Heart chakraand associated biological systems. At the biological level, emotional and physical pain affects the same section of the brain. Many scientists agree that in the case of a painful gap, the brain area is stimulated, which in turn stimulates the nerve called Vagus. It is this nerve that is responsible for the feeling of pain in the chest. Because of this pain, people say that literally feel that their heart is broken. As a result, the loss and breaking of the chakra and biological systems responsible for communication suffer the most. Because just they take on the main blow.

Before we continue, let's touch another point. Although none of us wants to talk about it, but in a relationship that adds out of the hands is bad, quite often we begin to hope that our partner will perish in a catastrophe or accident. Do not worry, many people visits such a thought. The reason is simple. Any gap is a kind of death. In the rupture dies part of us. And if we do not feel the strength to deliberately provoke such death, we hope that it will happen without our participation.

Why don't we want to take such responsibility? We do not want the feeling of guilt to the feeling of loss. You make another person, but dies some of you. Feeling in parting is partly similar to sensations from the real death of a loved one.

Cardiac rehabilitation - first aid

After parting it will not work one day to wake up with a whole heart. Broken heart is injury, and, as with any other injury, to become healthy again, the body must pass the healing process. You can make a decision to move on, but it does not mean that you have healed. Trying to accelerate the process of rehabilitation after the gap - the same thing that you can try to grieve as quickly as possible in the event of the death of your loved one.

Cardiac pain should not last forever. The consciously you feel about the process of cure, the less time it will take.

So, what do we have to doIf your heart is broken? To start learning a simple rule - If the gap happened recently and you still stay in shock and grief, stop living with thoughts about this day or this week. Live thoughts about the next five minutes or hour. When life collapses and we stay one on one with a deep wound, important plan life only for short moments forward. What will help me feel better in the next five minutes? What will facilitate my condition in the coming hour? Live a minute a minute and an hour per hour, increasing time segments as healing is healing. And now we turn to the immediate soviets..

1. Do not distract yourself. Distractable - the most common advice that you get in case of rupture. You advise you to dare to hike, on the game, on alcohol ... But in this case recurney is simply inevitable. You have already lost some part of yourself if you continue to reject yourself and neglect yourself (which happens when trying to distract) you Just aggravatehis injury. Sensation of a broken heart all-consuming let him attend in your life. Sometimes to get out of the forest, you need to go to the deeder. Understand that approaching and building relationships based on affection, you are trying to fill those parts of yourself who have once lost.

   Relationships with another person to some extent allow you to feel more complete. You need to try independently reconstruct yourself. Pay attention inside yourself. Do not be afraid of dependence. All our world consists of mutual dependencies, they do not cause pain, and independence causes. On the other hand, autonomy is a feeling of internal integrity. If you feel a full-fledged person, you do not need to close with others to fill the gaps. But to become autonomous, you need to learn trust yourself. You need to take steps to build trust relationships With yourself and, as a result, to autonomy. The worst thing you can do At the stage, when your heart is broken - immediately immersebased on affection. This is especially true in the event of a break of romantic relationships. Immediately starting new relationships you only aggravate injurywhich received in the previous ones.

Make a step towards becoming a full-fledged person. Part of the path to self-sufficiency - return to yourself, search yourself. Who am I? What do I want? What I need? How do I want to change my life? Remember those periods of life when you were happy by themselves. What did you do then? Return it in your life.

Often, after the break, you return to the starting point, from where you start moving in a completely different direction. Your priorities shifted. You need to remember who you are, and find yourself again. Even the initiators of the rupture pass through the periods of such a loss alone.

Start life again. You can move to another city, find new job, in short start with pure sheet. Or you can simply rearrange the furniture in the house or make repairs. You can start cooking new dishes or change something in your appearance. Changelet me remind you of how strong the pain of loss is. Do not be afraid to get rid of reminders about the past. It may scare you, because you do not want to lose touch with your beloved even more. But tell yourself that you do not burn these reminders, unless, of course, you do not need to do literally to let go of the situation. You just remove such objects from sight, you can return to them at any time. Or throw away if you are ready.

Treat your negative beliefs as a result of experienced pain. This belief seems to be "I will never be able to trust anyone else" or "I can't build relationships." Most of all we are wounded by the convictions "should" . When the relationship rushes, we think that this should not happen. We must be with this person until the end of life. If we believe that something should happen and this does not happen, it way to emotional catastrophe.

Check out the reasons for what happened. Many people on the contrary will advise you to avoid such an analysis, because it will cause you even more pain, but this is not quite so. It is very important to understand the reasons for events, this understanding will free us. It is also very important to understand what happened to not repeat the same mistakes in the future. Constantly aware that there is something more significant in the world. It is very important to practice a conscious approach. Even if we argue that we do not understand the causes of the events that occurred, we almost always feel them. Just do not recognize this because it hurts pain.

People come to our life and leave it not just like that. We can think that the purpose of staying in our life of this man was a romantic relationship, but in fact the goal is absolutely different. Try to think that a person came to your life to give you a piece of puzzle. Try to understand what kind of piece you got from it.

A broken heart man likes to think that the world is configured against him. Try to focus on all good things happened to you in this relationship. This is a great way to get rid of the belief that they did not bring you anything but pain.

2. Try to understand that you have a good and right. When we are experiencing a gap, our self-esteem suffers very much. We begin to think that something is wrong with us. We start convincing themselves that if everything was in order with us, this would not have happened. Focus on your strengths and positive sides. If you find it difficult to make such a list, ask for help from friends. Then try to understand how each of the qualities helps us in life or can be useful to a person who wants to create relationships with us.

   Feel support and connection with other people. Be in a circle of communication. The gap is very painful experience, because it is a loss of communication. Obviously, if you begin to communicate with other people, you will not worry so much. Now a great period to work on getting energy. It will help you not to feel lonely, so you will have less reasons for excitement. Perhaps your pain will interfere with you to get closer to people. But rapprochement will help you, because you suffer from lack of intimacy. The presence of other people will improve your condition.

   Think about the best development of events. When you are worried about the gap, then tend to think only about the worst of possible scenarios, because it seems to you that your life collapses on the part. Instead, think about best script For the coming year. What you will do with whom you will be what will appear in your life. This is how you need to learn to think. In reality, the gap can close one door, but open another. Perhaps this new door opened will lead you to what you always wanted.

   Let yourself cry if you want. Cry- detoxification of painful emotional energy. Suppression is opposite. You can feel embarrassed if you pay, but it is important for you to cross through social beliefs and give emotions out.

   Relax the body. Body relaxation relaxes mind and vice versa.This is a double-move street. We can use this principle for yourself, because often in the process of rupture we cannot relax the mind, no matter how tried. Instead, try to relax the body. Do our best so that the body gets peace. Turn on the song that improves you mood. Go to the massage. Get on yoga or other sports. Pourish. Make breathing exercises. Take a bath with salt. Do all that will allow the body to relax.

   Meditate every day. Meditationallows us to free the thoughts, so thoughts can stop their jogging. This gives incredible relief. This is important in the gap process. Meditation also allows us to connect with a source of energy, with spiritual spheres. This gives us a broader perspective that is extremely necessary to survive a painful experience. Also during meditation, we enter the state of permission, which heal.

   Get your grateful diary or positive moments. After the break, we see the world in black. We do not see positive and can only focus on negative. We lose control. The best thing you can do is especially immediately after waking up and immediately before going to bed - make yourself fill in the page things for which you are grateful or who are just pleasant to you.

   When you feel emotional pain, It is better to think with small categories. Let's be honest - some global things now you do not add up. Instead, focus on pleasant trifles. Do not chit and write down only those things that really raise your mood, and not those that theoretically should raise it. If you keep a diary before bedtime, you will sleep better to sleep, and wake up with the same vibrations that fell asleep. If you lead a diary in the morning, then ask the mood for the whole day. This is especially important if your heart is broken.The injured person wakes up, and his insieust of what happened on his head is hitting his head. Therefore, all day a person will try to survive, and not live.

   Learn to love yourself. When a benevolent is suitable for you in a difficult period, "Love yourself," it infuriates, because between the lines you hear: "You will be alone until the end of your days." But here is meant by another. This world is managed law of attraction. The world is a big mirror.

   All our vibrations are reflected in the universe. The more love we send to your address, the more love we get from other people.

   Self-satisfaction- Next for hate the stage. If you love yourself, you will not be able to hurt yourself. Often, people with a broken heart themselves manage to do to themselves even more.

   Allow yourself to close the topic. Try to understand what prevents you from doing this and move on. Maybe you feel the need to apologize. Maybe you want to ask why the partner did you. Maybe you want to know how to avoid such mistakes in the future. Maybe you need to throw out old things. Maybe you need to hold a symbolic ceremony. Allow yourself to close the topic as you feel necessary.

   Find the method of therapy that suits you.

   Nowadays, you have something to choose, even special techniques allowing a person to get out of the crisiswhich follows the rupture of relationships. If you have lost contact with your loved one or the relationship broke, it does not matter, you broke up formally or not, the psychotherapist may have a closest person for a period of time. That's why therapy So heals. If we need help, we must be able to get it. Gap - just the situation in which a person needs help. Allow yourself to regret the loss. People who get stuck in past relationships are usually push outin yourself sorrowful feelings.

   In reality, we are all of the same energy. We are all part of the single energy field. Therefore, we cannot lose something or someone. We can create the illusion of losses. Nothing comes and nothing comes from this world. You cannot lose what is connected from the inside.

   The pain of time. But when you feel it, you do not realize it. But your pain looks like a crying child. Contact it appropriate. The pain does not try to hurt you. She herself wounded and appeals to help.

It is very difficult to recover after breaking the relationship, since negative emotions can overfill you. You can literally make yourself get up from bed and do everyday affairs. You can recover faster if you take care of yourself, as well as enlist the support of friends and loved ones. In addition, you can get professional help of a psychotherapist. Also work to let go of your past relationships. Thanks to this you can move on.

Steps

Release the relationship

1. Avoid contact S. former partner. Give yourself the time and space that are necessary to recover after breaking the relationship. Do not call and not send messages to your former partner. Remove it from friends on social networks.

   • Tell your former partner that you do not want to communicate with him for a while. You can say: "I need time for myself. I will be very grateful to you, if you are not trying to contact me. I need time to sort it up. "

2. Get rid of things that remind you of your former partner. Do not store things belonging to your former partner or resemble you about him. If you want to cope with painful feelings, you need to get rid of things forcing the person to remember the person with whom you broke up.

   • Ask your former partner to pick up your belongings. When he comes, you can ask a friend to give these things to your former.

3. Think about the start of new relationships. Although many do not even allow themselves to allow the thoughts about the start of new relations, in fact, it can help cope with the feelings. Communication with a person of the opposite sex helps to forget the former partner. In addition, new relationships make it possible to feel more desirable. Moreover, having met with a new partner, you will feel more independent and calm.

   • You can ask friends and loved ones to acquaint you with suitable person. In addition, you can get acquainted online.

4. Wait until you are sure that you are ready for new relationships. If you feel that they are not ready for relationships, do not rush. Instead, focus all your attention and strength to take care of yourself and spend time with good friends and family members. Develop as a person. When you are ready, try to build a new relationship.

   • Be prepared for the time you need to recover after breaking. It will be difficult for you to immediately build a new relationship. Best patience and do not require quick peaceful healing.

   Take care of yourself

   1. Drive diary In which write down your thoughts and feelings. Diary maintenance is a great opportunity to pour your heart. Write what you think. Do not fix what is written. Just free from the thoughts and the feelings that you all together. Thanks to this, you can recover faster and put your feelings and emotions in order.

      • You can reflect on the following issues: "What problems were in our relationship?", "How did I understand (a) that the relationship is over?", "What do I feel now?"

   2. Take a hobby . Maybe you like to draw or read. Perhaps you enjoy sports or knitting. Instead of allowing negative thoughts to destroy you from the inside, dedicate your time what you like. This will help you relax and focus on the present, instead of constantly indulgent to memories.

      • Sign up for courses, learning what you like, for example, knitting or drawing. Or join the sports team, such as a football or volleyball, if you like sports.

   3. Select time on sports everyday. Physical exercises Help to cope with painful feelings after breaking the relationship. In the morning, select a little time on the jog. In addition, devote daily 30 minutes by sports. If you have the opportunity, attend fitness club several times a week.

      • If you are difficult to play sports yourself, offer a friend to join you. Thanks to this, it will be easier for you to maintain motivation. You can also offer a friend to make morning jogging.

   4. Practice deep breathing technique . If you are alarming or are in a state of stress, start practicing deep breathing technique to calm down and relax. Find a quiet secluded place where no one will distract you. Make slow breaths and exhalations for a few minutes.

      • You can also attend classes where you can learn how to perform similar exercises. Thanks to this, you will keep calm.
      • As a rule, deep breathing techniques are practiced in yoga classes. Do yoga, performing slow exercises that contribute to relaxation.

   5. Repeat positive affirmations. Positive affirmations help positively look at life, even in cases where you feel frustrated or depressed. Try to pronounce positive affirmations in the morning after sleep or in the evening, before going to bed. Repeat affirmations that will help you feel a strong personality.

      • For example, you can repeat: "I have everything in order" or "I am strong". You can also repeat the following statement: "I will survive this" or "I am above this situation."

   6. Avoid behavior that can harm. As a rule, after breaking the relationship, a person is experiencing deep soul pain. Some, being in such a state, begin to do things that threaten their health and even life. Try not to do what can harm your physical or mental health. Do not learn the temptation to take drugs or drink alcohol to relieve mental pain. Also do everything possible not to meet with a former partner, and do not contain yourself from others. Such actions you destroy your identity.

      • If you have a desire to somehow harm yourself, contact a relative or friend. Take a favorite activity or write down your thoughts and feelings in the diary.
      • Consult immediately for help if you have thoughts to cause yourself physical harm.