What do I really want?
Do you think this question is easy to answer? Here you know exactly what you want In fact? If you really know, you can be happy for you, not everyone is lucky to find this knowledge.
Most do not know their true desires. Doesn't even try to find out. For what? They strive to provide for themselves and their loved ones, believing that the main thing is material well-being and respect for others. They spin like squirrels in a wheel: they build a career, work overtime so that “everything is like with people”. And they do not notice how they live their lives in vain, in pursuit of values that do not bring joy. In pursuit of imposed values.
No one is trying to challenge the obvious fact that without money one cannot live in the modern world. And there is nothing wrong with a career.
It is bad when there is no joy in life. When a person does not enjoy what he does. Many sincerely believe that it cannot be otherwise. They do what is "needed". What is considered right in the eyes of others, what is encouraged by society and what they were taught from childhood: “You must study well, otherwise you will not get a higher education. Without a diploma, they will not be hired for a job with a high salary. You will be a loser in life! So do what you're told!"
And we do. We do what encouraged by society Because no one wants to be a loser.
In this world, absolute freedom does not exist, we are all, to some extent, hostages of the concepts of “should” and “must”. But we do not have to give up ourselves, because there is always a choice. You can always find a life path that brings not only livelihood, but also joy!
Our society is built in such a way that values are imposed from childhood. This is the main difficulty. We are not helped to discover ourselves, they are not helped to understand what our talents are, what we are predisposed to, what really want. We are told what to do, what to do and how to live. They don’t even just speak, but inspire from a very young age. And the first task on the way to self-realization is to get rid of values imposed from outside and find the true ones.
How to understand what you really want?
- First, realize: you live your life, not friends, girlfriends, not a boss, not parents - only you. Seems obvious, doesn't it? Then take full responsibility for your actions.
For example, if you don't like your job, who do you blame? Chief? Colleagues? Maybe someone who recommended the job? You themselves got a job you don't like, so don't complain that you don't like it.
Did you listen to the advice of a friend and buy a dress, but it doesn’t suit you and is now collecting dust on a hanger? You made the purchase, not your friend.
On the advice of your parents, you learned to be a surgeon, but you faint from the sight of blood and now you are sitting without a job?
What is the conclusion from this? Make decisions deliberately, realizing that you reap the consequences, and not the one who gives advice or teaches life. And do not blame anyone for your failures - analyze what happened and correct the situation.
- Try new things, experiment. Do not put yourself in the narrow framework of the profession and the current lifestyle. Don't be afraid of change, but be smart.
There is nothing wrong with changing your profession for a while, trying yourself in something else. Or change your place of residence. Do not be afraid to make a mistake, but sensibly assess the possible consequences.
It's never too late to change everything.
Many are afraid of change because it threatens the established way of life. Let a small salary and a tyrant boss, but a familiar and permanent job. Let the disgusting town without any special prospects, but here it has its own housing. Let the unloved person, but someone is nearby.
Change can deprive us not only of what we want to get rid of. They also threaten what we value. There is no guarantee that turning off the beaten track will lead to a dream. Moreover, the environment almost always opposes change, and uses any mistake as an occasion for criticism or gloating - you need to mentally prepare for this.
However, you cannot change your life for the better without making changes. Change is needed. But always look at least one step ahead. What happens if change brings more problems? Be ready to admit and correct your mistakes, those who do nothing do not make mistakes.
If the expectations from the new job did not materialize, who is stopping you from continuing the search? Before selling old housing, can you first rent an apartment or a room in a new place, find a job, feel “solid ground under your feet” and only then decide on a final move? And not immediately file for divorce, but live separately for some time, seek help from a psychologist? Each case has its own approach. The bottom line is not to cut off the shoulder, not to be inactive, but to take into account possible risks.
- Be honest with yourself. Listen to inner feelings.
Our subconscious mind constantly sends us signals in the form of emotions, we just need to learn how to recognize them. Some call it intuition.
This ability can and should be developed. Start simple. When choosing a purchase, listen to yourself: what emotions do you experience? Play the whole situation in your imagination: here you go to the checkout, give money, leave the store. Is there joy? Maybe an unpleasant sensation in the middle of the chest or approximately in the area of \u200b\u200bthe heart while picking up the goods and paying? What feelings do you have more when you leave the store: joy or regret? Is this thing really necessary? Start with simple, insignificant situations, gradually extending this technique to everything else.
Don't ignore your subconscious. Intuition is an incredibly powerful tool, and when used correctly, it helps to avoid many mistakes.
- educate yourself, do not miss the opportunity to learn something new, improve your professional level.
Do not stop in development at the achieved level. Do not think that since you once received an education, you have a diploma in your hands, now you can “calm down” and “not worry about it”. The more knowledge you have, the better your understanding of the world around you and your place in it.
Life is a constant movement. Constant change. And it depends only on you in which direction you will change: grow and develop or vegetate and degrade.
