Self-development: How to start a new life and change yourself?
Millions of people think about how to start a new life and change themselves, but at the same time do not take anything.
Let's find out how anyone can become completely different.
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Is it possible?
Can a person change to radically change?
Is it possible to change your temperament? Is it possible to change your life script, fate?
To start, it is important to answer the question: whether a person can change so that practically become another person?
When we live in certain conditions, there is nothing new around us, then There is no stimulus for development. In this case, it is almost impossible to change, especially if there is no motivation.
A man lives in his comfort zone. Yes, he has a small salary, unsuccessful personal life, but he continues to seem to want to change everything, but at the same time nothing does. Always scary.
Our actions, goals, motivation affects - these are the established in the process of social development features of psyche and personality. The basis of character, what is given to us at birth is.
The type of nervous system is almost impossible to change, although it is quite realistic to learn to act differently, to develop concrete features.
For example, if you want to be more active, sociable, then he will have to try and work on himself. It is quite capable of learn to control himself, although it is difficult for him with difficulty.
Above characteristics of character you can also work.
If you are not satisfied with the specific features of the person, develop a plan, how to get rid of them.
There is such a theory that we are destined for a certain fate, and change it we are no power. However, examples of many people refute this theory. For example, people born with flaws.
They could live on a disability retirement and be content with it. But there are those who, despite difficulties, work, achieve, become famous and respected people.
Part of the script is written in us since childhood. Parents, the closest surroundings put the installations to us, form a character. Child injuries are particularly influenced.
But this does not mean that we'll have to come to terms with it. In our power to change the script prescribed in us by parents, it is only necessary to identify what prevents becoming successful and achieving the desired.
What can be changed in yourself?
What would I like to change in myself? Yes almost whatever. Want to be more liberated, learn to speaking skills - go to courses, trainings.
You do not like your quick temper - you will help yoga classes. You see that the muscles are weak, you are inferior to other people in endurance - why not do sports.
In modern world a huge number of opportunities.
And the point is not that we cannot, but in the fact that we do not want, we are afraid, lazy, we do not want to leave the familiar zone of comfort.
But only in this way changes occur.
How to find out what you want to change:
- write your own features, appreciate what you would like to leave, and from what to get rid of;
- list your achievements;
- write that you would like to achieve, but have not reached;
- think that you interfered with the desired;
- who do you blame in failures - the outside world, parents, yourself;
If you can't decide on yourself, then go to a consultation to a psychologist. It will hold the appropriate tests and help choose the direction of movement.
Choose a professional coach that deals with the problem of self-development.
Where to begin?
How to change life for the better? Any changes from something begin. They do not happen by themselves. Exception - psychotrauming situations when occurs Sharp revaluation of values.
Where to begin? Understand what exactly you want to change. Come realistically to the assessment of your personality, achievements and errors. Do not be afraid to know yourself. Sometimes we know that we have some disadvantages, but consciousness does not allow them to be appreciated.
If it does not work yourself, ask people who you trust.
Get ready for criticism And do not be offended if you hear not what would like.
Changes are associated with motivation. Put yourself a goal: for what to change what you want as a result to achieve, in what time frame.
How to change?
Now go to the most difficult stage: the process of changing your personality and life.
Your identity is unrecognizable
Manifestation of personality intern this is our feature. If you know your drawbacks, work on them.
- Create your schedule cardinally. Write the schedule of the day, remove all the too much that prevents the goal to achieve the goal.
- Pay attention to the life of successful people: read their biography, find out how they went to their goal, which obstacles overcome. Inspire their experience.
- Every day recognize something new.
- Change the circle of communication. Social environment has a strong influence on us, it can inspire or omit on the bottom.
Exclude from your circle losers, whiskers, pessimists.
- Work on your own traits - improve positive and try to get rid of negative.
Inner world
How to change internally? Who are you - pessimist or an optimist, and maybe you consider yourself a realist?
We see the world in black paints, pay attention to the negative, as a result, life is getting worse and worse, and positive events disappear from our life.
Try to look at the world with other eyes. It is not easy, especially at the beginning.
Waking up, smile. Just smile a new dayEven if yours is waiting for complex work, general cleaning, a trip to the government.
Remember - you yourself create your own world.
Make a small exercise: Imagine that there is a light around you, you radiate shine into the world, and all people notice it. White, gentle light emitting kindness, energy, heat
You will see how your day will go differently, you will begin to notice, make compliments, and yours will be much better.
Thinking on positive
How to change your thoughts on positive? everyday find something positive around. Let it first be trifles. Rained - the weather, which has to relax and reflement.
Nahamili in transport - maybe the world wants you to pay attention to something or this is the test of your emotional durability. Look at the city with other eyes - Architecture, thousands of people hurrying to work.
Communicate as little as possible with negative people. Even if you consider them your friends - negative is infectious.
therefore look for those with whom it is nice to communicateWho you feel easily who enhances your energy, and does not take.
Positive thinking requires training. Initially, it will be difficult to look for a positive, you will seem to be that everything is bad. But after three weeks, you will notice with surprise, as the world began to change, and you are with him.
Beliefs
To begin with, decide whether you really need to change them. If you require other people, remember, beliefs - features of your personality. Do not change only because this requires others.
If you want to really change the beliefs, then read more, evaluate opinions, facts, look faithful.
Lifestyle
Everything is simple - start something to do right now.Not tomorrow, on Monday or from the New Year, but from this minute. Want to get rid of the bad habit - do it immediately, do not wait for the right moment, because it will not come.
Want to get up before - make a alarm clock, little one - put three. You will begin to get used to the new regime after a few days.
Spend a lot of time for useless classes - just stop doing now - Disconnect social networks, remove the TV from the house, stop meeting people who take your time and do not benefit.
Habits
How to make yourself change your habits? Motivation - this is what matters.
Answer yourself - For what you want to change your habits. Look at the perspective.
If you smoke, then remember the health, wrinkles, sagging, problems with the lungs, which are certainly awaited in a few years. Harmful habits are early aging.
You want to have a fresh and bloating look as long as possible, be active, like the opposite sex - then get rid of the habit right now. A person gets used to new conditions for about 21 days, you need to hold out only three weeks.
Attitude to life
We produce optimism in yourself. Yes, it seems that everything is bad. In fact, there is a lot of wonderful in the world. It was difficult to live at any time.But now we have so many opportunities that they must be used.
What gives you your pessimism? You see everything in black and gray tones. Worry about the health of bad salary, evil people. So start living for yourself. Rejoice in life for yourself. Work and achieve for yourself.
Stop complain. Remember: complainants and noctors do not like. If you want you to regret you, stop yourself. There is no case to our problems, but your complaints will push away from you really standing and positive people.
How to change for the better?
For girl
Girls love strong guys capable of actions.
They prefer those who keep the word who can be trusted with whom it is not scary to go through life.
How to change:
- develop;
- forget about aimless pastime;
- work;
- select time for a joint holiday;
- respect the girl;
- take time to her, but do not be too intrusive - attention should not be with an overweight, otherwise it is rapidly annoying.
The most important thing - Be purposeful, do not stop there.
For guy
If you plan to live with a guy for a long time and happily, you have little Work on your own personality.
No, you do not need to adapt to someone, stay yourself, but develop your best qualities.
What to do:
The worst thing you can come up with - false and pretense. Stay yourself, develop positive thinking and strive to be active in life.
Real stories of people
There are many examples of people who decided to radically change their lives, and the age of this is not a hindrance.
Daphne Self is 86 years old. Glory came to her after 70, when she decided to become a fashion model. Her husband died, the children became adults, and in front of her got a choice - like everyone to spend old age in front of the TV or live for themselves.
Grand Ashas. Cancer won and fulfilled his dream - became a famous chef.
Susan Street 59 years. She dropped overweight after 50 years, and since then, cardinal changes have begun in her life. She was able to survive the loss of work, cancer, became a vegetarian, started his blog and helps other people change.
Such examples are thousands.
All you need is a push, awareness that your life is meaningless and wrong. Do not wait for the right moment, start changing from this minute.
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