How to learn to enjoy life: 7 most important rules
How to learn to enjoy life in spite of anything? This question, at least once in life, asked himself any person.
In fact, the ability to rejoice in life in general and in trifles is the magic life jacket, which is protected from the waves of everyday life, from sadness and sadness.
Is it difficult? Yes, a little, like any other job. Only nothing supernatural or impossible in it. You just need to work out the habit of search for reasons for joy.
And now I want to tell you 7 rules, observing which you will definitely invite joy in your life, you will find a worthy place for her.
Rule number 1. Learn to enjoy the tricks
Our whole life consists of small things - pleasant and not very. Just so we are arranged that everything, good happens to us, we do not notice, but everything is bad, which happens in our life, poisoning it, and sometimes it becomes just a disaster.
So that our life has become better, it is necessary to constantly fill it with pleasant trifles, "feed" yourself and your loved ones. Sometimes a cup of coffee, a new lipstick, or even any discount donated chocolate can be a pledge of joy and a good day for the whole day. Be careful to trifles, indulge yourself and loved ones and you will become much happier!
Rule No. 2. Enter the Diary of Gratitude
In the previous point, I have already spoken how important things are in our lives. And it is important not only for their presence, but also the ability to notice them, scroll in your head, say thank you.
You can constantly complain about life, to a husband, for children and not pay attention to how much good things happen in your life exactly thanks to them. And you can go different ways: to start a special notebook "Thanks Diary" and record 5-10 pleasant moments every day, the events that happened to you during every day. And then in the evening or at the end of the week, reread this diary, so you can make sure about how many reasons for joy in your life.
The most difficult thing in this exercise is regular. Be careful to all the signs that life gives you, do not neglect them!
Rule number 3. Become kindness to your loved ones and do not worry about what others think about you
I recently read the article in which the secret of the Japanese longevity was told. The thing is that these people have learned to be tolerant and attentive to others. They are not looking for a reason to say some nasty to a neighbor or colleague, but on the contrary, use all possible ways to behave as politely as possible, do not spoil nerves or others. From this won absolutely everything.
So you try to be always pleasant, even if a person belongs to you not the best.
But in this rule there is one small trick: so that negatively minded surrounding do not bring negative emotions to your life, divide all your surroundings on the closest people and buddies:
- The closest are those who are the most expensive for you, those whom you want to see in your life and after 20, 30, 40 years old is a spouse (spouse), parents, children, close friends. It is these people who love you, it is they who go with you in life hand in hand. It is necessary to take care of what relationship with them with them is to make maximum efforts for this.
- And the rest? Let them remain the rest. Do not worry too much about what they think about you (especially if undeservedly). You are not a Golden Chervonets to everyone like!
Rule number 4. Appreciate what you have now, and do not feel about what could be
I want to give you another advice regarding how to learn how to enjoy life and see positive in everything. First you need to try to look at your life from the side.
We ask you a few questions, and you mentally answer them.
You are healthy? Do you have a roof over your head (even if it is removable housing)? You have a job? Are your loved ones? You have that there is today, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow (or at least products from which it can be cooked)? Do you have close people who love you and who love you?
If most of the questions set by me, you answered in the affirmative, then you are happy and at the same time rich man! Not all people are still good as you. Many people in our time live in the war zone, they do not know that they will eat tomorrow, the day after tomorrow. They do not know where they will have to spend the night today.
Yes, in order to have something better, you need to put goals and strive for them. However, it is important not the goal itself, but the path you pass. Rejoice and little victories. Rejoice to the simple human communication, smile or kiss, warm hugs, care for loved ones. This is what you can not buy for any money, and what you need to learn to appreciate.
You should not eat the shoulders or my husband, looking around, sighing about what your neighbor has, but you do not have. Each has its own life, everyone has their own way and their needs. If you don't have something now, it means you just don't yet need. Well, when you need, then God's God will give you.
Rule number 5. Travel
A person who travels a lot is much more likely to joy than his comrades, leading a settling lifestyle. New places, people, beautiful landscapes, emotions that we feel, facing something unusual.
Yes, at home can be good, but traveling always give a positive energy charge. Before you are opening new horizons not only the terrain, but also your own soul. Getting acquainted with new people, you can learn from them that is good that they have.
Someone will say: how can I travel if I have no money for it? And here is not so much financial opportunity as your desire. After all, it is not necessary to go to the most distant point of the world or in the most expensive hotel. If you want to see something new, in touch with another culture, sometimes you just need to drive only a few tens of kilometers. The main thing is your desire and your curiosity!
Rule number 6. Risk, carry out your dreams.
Do not be happy to enjoy life? Probably, this is because you do not like to dream or do not try to embody your dreams. And in vain. After all, when a person dreams, he seems to fall into another world.
You can blame others, the circumstances, the state of anyone. And you can get hurry, put the target and go to the exercise of your dreams. Only pity can only be used as short-term technology. If it lasts longer than a few days, then begins to destroy your self-confidence and will not give you anything good.
And if you take yourself in your hands, make a maximum effort, Clear or slow step to go to your dream, then your chances to improve your life, bring the charge of positive emotions significantly increases. Do not be afraid to dream, do not be afraid to risk, go to meet your dream, and you will definitely work out!
Rule number 7. Do you like
A person who is engaged in his loved business cannot be joy. The most important thing is to listen to your heart, decide what exactly you want to do. At the same time, you will earn millions or glorify, but you will enjoy what you do every day. And you definitely do not have to seek the answer to the question of how to learn to enjoy life every day.
Do you like, and you do not have to work for a single day in your life.
Wise statement, right?
In order for your life to be more joyful, full, filled, you need to take care of your physical and psychological state.
Women in this regard is much easier than men, because we have many opportunities to raise yourself. All sorts of facemas for face, body, hair. Manicure, pedicure, hike to the hairdresser. Massage, buying new lipstick, dress or shoes. Exercise, improving not only the body, but also our emotional state. And it does not matter if you will do them in an expensive gym or at home, for nice music. The main thing is your desire and your efforts.
An indispensable assistants at all times are an interesting book, kind film, hot tub with foam and beloved aroma. It can not do not work.
You need to learn how to care for yourself, for your body and soul. Do not indulge in pride or cultivate egoism, and correctly take care of what you have. And it will definitely be a reason for joy and good mood.
Personally, I received an excellent lesson on the theme of the ability to rejoice in every moment of life, after reading, at one time, an excellent Roman American writer Elinor Porter "Polianna" (by the way, I recommend to you).
The main heroine is an orphan girl, whose life was far from mild, knew how to rejoice in everything in the world, even bad. How did she succeed? She turned her life in the game "In joy." In each situation, she always was looking for something to be happy. And the more difficult it was, the more interesting there was a game.
For example, she began to play with the fact that one of the holidays she dreamed of getting, like all the girls, a doll, and got ... crutches. A difficult situation, especially for a child, isn't it? But her father found a way out of the situation, he suggested her the game "in joy": instead of sadness that no one has gone to a doll, rejoice that there are crutches, but they are not needed.
The girl did not cease to play "in joy" and after her father died, and when she had to live with a very strict and difficult to character, and when she was seriously ill.
What is the morality of all this: the main thing is not the event itself, but our view on it. Try to see at least something good in every situation, and your life will be much joyful and happy. You can start right now!
