How to become a balanced person

An unbalanced person is a person whose emotions are excessive, harsh, too intense and unrestrained. But the label “unbalanced” is not a death sentence. How to become a balanced person?

A person who is quick-tempered, irritable, aggressive and easily wounded, too sensitive, prone to panic, and tearful will also be called unbalanced. A person who laughs uncontrollably and has too much fun is also likely to appear unstable.

Thus, imbalance– an emotional deviation from a certain central point of internal balance, harmony of feelings and emotions, calm and tranquility.

An unbalanced person is in a state of permanent anxiety, irritability, dissatisfaction with himself and the world. As a result, there are Problems:

Psychosomatic in nature. Due to the fact that stress hormones are constantly released into the body, unbalanced people are susceptible to cardiovascular diseases, migraines, baldness, allergies, and stomach problems.
Constant quarrels and conflicts both at home and at work. As a result, trust disappears, the situation becomes uncomfortable and constantly tense.
Reduced efficiency of any activity and quality of life in general. An unbalanced person cannot concentrate on tasks and goals, being at the mercy of emotions and experiences.

An unbalanced person does not control the situation and cannot cope with himself, he is controlled by emotions, but a balanced person himself controls his emotions, controls them through will and reason.

Besides, a balanced person is distinguished by the following features:

It is impossible to constantly remain in a calm and detached state; most often, both calm poise and explosive emotions are temporary and situational phenomena.

A person whose main character trait is balance, who manages to remain calm most of the time, seems cool-blooded to others. He really has everything smooth inside, so he doesn’t care what happens outside, he remains impartial in almost any situation.

You need to understand that the desire to constantly remain unperturbed, regardless of the situation, is fraught with the fact that along with negative experiences, positive emotions and feelings will disappear.

Thus, equilibrium- this is not a constant stay in a state of detachment and composure, it is the ability to find a “golden mean” between cold emotional impartiality and ardor, that is, the ability to control one’s emotions.

How to stay calm in a stressful situation

Staying balanced in a calm environment is not difficult, but situations where it is difficult to control yourself are another matter. To become a balanced person, you need to learn to react calmly, think soberly and act wisely in non-standard, exciting, stressful situations. So you need to learn self-control and awareness.

When a stressful situation has arisen, need to:

Realize what exactly is happening, feel and name the emotions that arise. For example: “A quarrel is brewing, I’m angry.”
Collect all will and restraint from impulsive action. Tell yourself: “I can handle anger. I control her, not she controls me.” You can also recall Carlson’s phrase “Calm! Just calm!”, which, among other things, will distract and add a positive note.
Think how significant will be what is happening now in an hour, a day, a year. It is much easier to destroy than to build, and a word spoken or an action taken in the heat of the moment cannot be taken back or “replayed.”

The three steps described should help reduce the intensity of emotions, balance experiences in order to approach the problem intelligently and make the right decision.

There are also special technology, capable of balancing the psyche during an unpleasant situation:

Of course, there are no universal methods. The “Resource State” technique can be used in crowded transport, but when communicating with the boss, “flying in the clouds” is unacceptable; in this case, “Outside View” and “Transformation of Reality” are better suited.

How to achieve mental balance

In order for balance to become a habit and turn into a character trait, you will have to work on yourself.

A good place to start would be to introspection:

Observe yourself for a week or two and note what irritates you.
Make a list of irritating factors, starting from the corner of the chest of drawers (which you always hit with your foot), ending with your own negative character traits and people with whom you should not communicate.
Think about how to eliminate these irritants or how to learn to remain balanced when in contact with them.
Take proactive action.

Any work to improve life begins with internal transformations. So, to become a balanced person you need develop such qualities in yourself:

rational thinking,
determination,
responsibility,
organization,
punctuality,
self-control
self confidence,
reflection (it is better to retell a stressful situation not to friends, but to yourself).

The following will help you stay balanced throughout the day: actions and conditions:

keeping the daily routine,
alternation of mental and physical labor,
giving up bad habits (alcohol especially “shatters” the psyche),
limiting the flow of negative information,
use of anti-stress techniques,
communication with positive-minded people,
interior in calm colors (blue, green, light yellow, light brown colors balance the psyche),
the presence of living plants and animals in the room,
walks in the open air,
proper rest and sleep.

Of course, there are people who, due to their innate characteristics, are more balanced than others, but in general, the ability to remain calm is formed like any other skill.

It is important to accept your emotional reactions as given, because they are natural. Even the calmest and most reserved person can one day become seriously angry and flare up, but the hottest and most explosive person can learn to restrain himself and remain calm.