Self-sufficiency of man - what is it?

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In my opinion, self-sufficiency of a person is a kind of foundation, the cornerstone, from which the formation of a happy and harmonious personality is begins. But it is very important not to confuse this concept with pride and egoism, which so often disguise under self-sufficiency.

So what is self-sufficiency?

Speaking briefly - this is the condition of existence when a person is quite himself.

Any of us is born in this world, and therefore, one way or another, integrated into society. Self-sufficiency is, this is not an isolation, loneliness or another form of indity from the social world. Rather, this ability to do its own in any situations, as well as the lack of dependencies. It is independence that is synonymous with self-sufficiency.

Some psychologists share self-sufficiency into several areas:

• Social "The man managed to find his place in life, he was successful in the work sphere, financially independently interacting well with society, firmly stands on his feet.
• Economic - A person is able to serve himself in household matters, it is quite capable of living alone, without needing to help.
• Psychological - Personality does not need approval, advice and companies of other people, can independently make decisions, act alone, is not afraid to stay alone with him.

I believe that to share self-sufficiency to some levels, the spheres are incorrect. There is a huge number of successful in business and financially independent people. At the same time, some are also afraid of loneliness, others are drowning in their pride, considering themselves higher than others, the third ever and nothing to find satisfaction, despite the fact that they have achieved wealth and have all the benefits of civilization. Is it possible to call such people self-sufficient, despite the fact that they are firm on their feet in the social environment? No and no again.

The same applies to the economic sphere - in bulk people who live alone in their own apartments and can welcome soup themselves, wash clothes, stroke her, go beyond products, etc. But at the same time they are also deeply unhappy and cannot confidently say, What is satisfied with your life.

Much more closer to the truth is the psychological definition of self-sufficiency. All the rest is only the predominance of certain qualities in a person, more relating to physical independence.

What is self-sufficiency in a deeper understanding?

Self-sufficiency is by no means determined by the financial condition, the situation in society, the ability to tie the laces and other external factors. This is, first of all, the ability to take yourself as it is. Lack of dealing with themselves - the main signs of self-sufficiency. If a person does not fight with him, he will not fight with the world. He knows how to take it all like it is, not trying to remake it in his facilities, or rather, in favor of his ego.

Imagine that you are very rich. Money is not bad, everyone wants to have a lot of money and there is nothing bad. So, here, let's say, you need to visit another city, let's say, get to an important conference. You call the best hotel to book a room, but it turns out that there are no free places for this day. You are upset and call the hotel worse, but there are no free numbers there.

The city is small and there is only one cheap third-rate hotel, where the simplest rooms with old furniture, shabby carpets and long-unwashed windows. What do you feel? Anger, disappointment, hopelessness, just a disorder, hostility to a bad service, consider such a number unworthy? Any negative feeling that such a situation can cause you - there is a manifestation of your egoism and self-existent.

But think, because even in the cheapest hotel you stay yourself! In an expensive number, you are also you. With money you, and without money you. In bed with snow-white new linen you, and in bed with loss sheets, too, you too. It turns out that you are important to the surrounding, since you react so sharply on it, you are dependent on it! And this can no longer be considered self-sufficiency. You not enough Being yourself, you need decent, in your opinion, the situation, "scenery" for your life.

There is nothing wrong with striving for the better, surround yourself with beautiful things, allow yourself expensive entertainment and excellent service. But it is important to your attitude towards all this. If it affects you - you are not self-sufficient, you are a "thermometer", which only reflects the temperature level. If you are affecting the surrounding and know how to remain in any situation - you are a "thermostat", which sets the temperature of the environment.

Self-sufficiency is the minimum dependence on external circumstances, external will, surrounding people and situations.

A self-sufficient person, if he loves, does not try to remake his partner in favor of his preferences. He knows how to take people as it is, because I learned how to take it. He is not afraid of loneliness, because he will always find something to take himself. He understands well that in essence, we are all alone. We alone come to this world and leave it alone. Life gives us extraordinary opportunities and meetings with other people. A self-sufficient person perceives it as a gift and carefully enjoys them, enjoying, learns, and does not require from the world as proper to provide him with certain conditions for happiness, constantly accusing the fate that she squatted him again.

When a self-sufficient person meets with anger, criticism, evil, insults, he does not feel the need to join conflicts and prove something to his prosecutor. Rather, he will even be grateful to him and take a look at himself, perhaps it really is over what to work in his personality.

What does the most surrounding people do? They are actively involved in the global "battle of life." Fight for their own significance, novel dignity, His importance, spending on this a colossal share of their vitality, energy, potential. Significance inevitably generates addiction and minimizes self-sufficiency.

A self-sufficient person is more like a viewer of life scenes, and not on the participant of these ruthless bloody fights. It is impossible to hurt, to hurt or offend, because he does not consider himself more important than the other. It is impossible to manipulate - he has no fears or dependencies. He is not a slave of his desires.

Of course, this does not mean that he has no aspirations, desires, intentions, dreams and he is bored and passive. Desires and aspirations in such a person can be a lot. But if such an individual does not work out something, it does not blame the circumstances and others, but just begins to do something else.

He is flexible and plastic, is not afraid of losing something, because it feels in itself enough potential to find everything he needs. He is fully responsible for his life on himself. Even in the most difficult situations, he is looking for solutions. He does not blame those surrounding in his problems and does not believe that they should have something to do something. At any time and at any time, he feels that in it enough Potential for the implementation of certain goals, desires, aspirations.

What do many of us do when you need to do any goal? Sit and complain that there is not enough of that. That would be something or that would be easier to accomplish the conceived. But the conditions are not those, and the weather is not the one, and people around are not as necessary. And when the goal was not realized - there is always nothing to justify: the conditions did not allow to achieve the desired, everything around is to blame! Familiar? Do not be afraid to answer "Yes." Awareness of the problem is a step towards her decision.

The lack of envy and are caught - one more important features of self-sufficiency.

The self-sufficient person is alien to such feelings as envy, gloating, angina, vitality, the desire to prove something else. This is absolute harmony with himself and the outside world. Victory over their ego. Such a person is not trying to change the world, he changes himself if he feels discomfort in relation to anything.

When a financially wealthy person, which achieved a certain success and position in society, calls himself self-sufficient - this is nothing more than its egoism and pride. A truly self-sufficient person, in general, does not need to tell someone about it and assert themselves in this way. Usually, such people cause interest, misunderstanding and even disapproval.

Living in society can not be absolutely independent. We all enter into cooperation with the laws of the country in which they live, society, social services. We need the services of the same doctors, teachers, sellers, etc. Therefore, it is impossible to say that self-sufficiency is, in general, a complete lack of dependence in the world. Rather, it is the absence of painful attachments, dependencies from someone else's opinion, approval.

A self-sufficient person never stops in its development, always open to new knowledge and growth. It does not deny absolutely nothing and allows everything to be as it is.

You can develop self-sufficiency in yourself. And believe me, you are already quite enough for this forces and energy.

It would be very interesting to know what you think about self-sufficiency, whether you agree with this definition, as described above or you have a different opinion, share it in the comments. Perhaps your thoughts will help even deeper this topic.