Self-development: starting point. Where to begin?

A modern person is a successful person. He is handsome, healthy and well-built, knows exactly what he wants, loves and knows how to do something important that brings benefit to others, and gives him both moral satisfaction and income. We begin to develop such a picture under the influence of modern media, the rhythm of our lives, requests and desires.

However, comparing themselves with this image, many remain dissatisfied - one does not correspond to the other. Therefore, a person comes to the conclusion that he needs to change himself, but often does not know where to start, what this notorious personal growth is.

Self-development - what is it?

Speaking about self-development, we will try to formulate as simply as possible what this means. People who want to change their lives for the better and do so prefer to engage in this difficult task. Most of us already have an ideal image of ourselves - a fit, active and successful person with an excellent sense of humor who does what he loves. But, thinking about where to start the process of self-improvement, many fall into a stupor, postponing and postponing it until later.

Self-development involves a qualitative improvement in any aspect of life, personal growth. Probably no one will be able to change everything in one fell swoop. Firstly, there are not enough resources for this - after all, each of us has important, but uninteresting things to do, from which it is simply impossible to escape. Secondly, a person is always afraid of sudden and cardinal changes, and anyone will give up before the picture of a complete reshaping of life. Therefore, it would be correct to start metamorphoses for the better from one area in which we feel “blocked”.

Initiate change: how?

Many people think that starting the process of change and personal growth requires a huge amount of time, money, talent and other opportunities, which they simply do not have. Therefore, a person either postpones this event, or spoils his mood every day, scolding himself for weak character and laziness.

But before that, it is important to analyze which area needs immediate growth first.

Sphere of the Human Spirit. Personal growth is, first of all, understanding your shortcomings. Changing yourself in this area means trying to get rid of anger and stop gossiping and settling scores, and changing your own attitude towards others for the better. They say that around a bright person the world becomes kinder.
Financial side of life. Which of us is satisfied with our income and does not want it to grow? However, the root cause is usually the individual’s dissatisfaction with the place and activity where he has to do his daily work. Ask yourself - are you really satisfied with your profession, position, corporation? It very often happens that no. But not everyone can simply quit their job or immediately change it to a better one. Therefore, you can start by attending trainings, courses or seminars, studying online, submitting a resume to other companies, while remaining working in the same place. Many people want to start their own business but are afraid of failure. Changing this situation gradually is the most reasonable solution. Find out what documents and conditions are important in this area, and what exactly it will cost you to open your own business.
Social sphere. Often, when communicating out of habit, we do not attach due importance to it, but it’s worth starting to do so. Think about whether the people you are talking to are really pleasant and necessary to you? Do you have comrades who pull you back, envy you, pour negativity on you with constant complaints? Ask yourself, why did problems appear in the family? Maybe you are the one to blame for this, paying little attention to your spouse, parents or children? To make sense of all this and continue your personal growth, it’s good to start keeping a journal. You can make a diagram or table for yourself, point by point what needs to be done in this area, and what you would like to get rid of. Such a “road map” will clarify the situation and mark the beginning of changes for the better.
The sphere of intellectual growth of the individual. It relates to the development of attention and memory, deepening one’s own knowledge, abstract and creative thinking, which is necessary in any, even the most pragmatic, activity. Where to start to change for the better in this area? The most important way of gaining knowledge and education for thousands of years is the book. By training yourself to spend 20 minutes in the evening not in front of the TV or wandering around on social networks, but reading really interesting material, you will improve your literacy, deepen your vocabulary and simply calm your nerves.

Productive - little by little

It is impossible to change yourself once and for all at an accelerated pace. We lose some skills, living conditions and circumstances change, and our body requires constant care and work on itself. Doing little, but regularly, is the main principle that can change the internal and external in oneself for the better, which is what we all want. Here are examples of such small activities that can move mountains and initiate great changes in oneself:

Do 15-20 squats twice a day.
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Change your habit of eating chocolate after lunch. Instead, use some seasonal fruit.
Turn off the TV for 20 minutes in the evening and just talk to your children.
Dividing your apartment into small zones and cleaning one of them a day is also one of the manifestations of personal growth.
Go to English or Spanish courses, because you have dreamed of this since your student years.
Download video classes for the type of fitness that you like - stretching, yoga or incendiary Zumba - and perform one small complex per day.
Before breakfast, drink a glass of water with a spoonful of honey dissolved in it.
Walk before bed with your spouse for 15 minutes.

You can change your life for the better right from this moment. To do this, it is important to get up and do some small but important thing that will raise your self-esteem. Don't forget to praise and motivate yourself. Start only with those things that are truly interesting to you. In this case, self-improvement will take over you, changing your life and opening up new, unexplored horizons.