What to do if a man merges. True signs that a man has cooled down and wants to end the relationship. He does not invite you to meet friends.

"Hello Evolution. I will join many people thanking you for the work that you do on the pages of your blog. I think you get stories like mine every day, and perhaps, if not mine, but someone else's similar situation will be sooner or later disassembled into evolab. It is called "a month familiar, two weeks a novel, and the man seems to merge."

The man in question is 31 years old, two years older than me. I. and I met a month ago at a concert. During the performance, the performer announced that the next day he would give a street concert in one of the underground passages in our city, I. and I corresponded in the evening, discussing where this could happen. We went to different points, in the end we didn’t guess right, but we made it to the performance. After - we went to a cafe, sat there for two hours, chatted. I immediately liked him very much, but I was not sure if it was mutual. He's cool, charming and free, with no history of wife or children. I have a daughter of four years old and some not very successful personal life. In the sense - there are a lot of acquaintances, a lot of communication, flirting, some men with varying degrees of seriousness of intentions surround me all the time, but for a long time no relationship has grown into anything serious.

After a couple of dates - a kiss. Wow, what a kiss it was! The daughter stayed that evening with her dad's overnight stay. During the meeting, my mother called me, and from our conversation I. it became clear that my daughter would not be at home. And when he gave me a lift to the house, he asked if I wanted to invite him to my place (the kiss was quite passionate, I would have dragged him to my place that evening, but according to my feelings it was still early). I smiled, but said no. He drove home, sent a message on the way: “While I’m standing at the traffic light, I’ll write what is in my heart. Maybe my question could offend you .. or some part of you .. but from your conversation it was clear that your daughter was not at home, and I could not help but ask him. Here. I'll go quietly further) ". I replied: “I was not offended, but delighted) I feel very good with you, but I don’t want to rush things yet.” Well, then there were a lot of warm words from both sides.

Our virtual communication was also quite active, and the messages themselves were gentle and passionate. The initiative for the meetings came from both him and me. On the March holidays, we all went to the cinema together, with my daughter, and, in principle, had a good time, although I was a little embarrassed if I had imposed this meeting on him. But it seems that he himself expressed a desire to join. So I didn't plan that he would be with us that day. On March 8, we went to a screening of a film performance, and it so happened that I invited him myself and bought tickets. I am writing all this so that the dynamics of communication is more or less clear - there was interest on both sides, without bias in either direction, the initiative was also mutual.

Two weeks passed in this way. And they were beautiful)

Last Friday, the father of my child promised to take his daughter with him. Honey, I wrote to I. that evening, when will we meet now? Probably Sunday after your workout? My joy, I answered I., why wait until Sunday, I would gladly drag you to my place today. An excellent plan, wrote I., I'll go home, pack my things for tomorrow's competition, and to you. And he came to me.

I liked the sex - and I thought that, damn it, how cool, if the first time is so good, then it will only get better. And then my mother called - it turns out that the daughter's father did not come for her and did not warn her. My daughter could not sleep, everyone was tortured with her. We live in neighboring apartments, so I couldn't think of anything better how to bring her to my place and put her to bed at home. In the morning we got up and had breakfast, I. kissed me and went to the competition, and I sat down to work (I work remotely, seven days a week, but on average 4 hours a day, so there is time for the gym-child-hobby-study-movie-date -procrastination and other pleasures).

Last Wednesday, the course I go to was graduation. I was going home, I. called and offered to mark my diploma with a cup of coffee. I arrived at a cafe, we played a little. Then we moved on to more intimate topics. I said that I do not understand how he does this, because as soon as he kisses me, on the lips, on the neck, I begin to melt and my head completely refuses (this is true). It was time for me to go home, we went to his car, while she was warming up, we kissed and I. suggested, as a joke, to have sex in the car, in the same place. Downtown, yeah I didn't really like this offer, he understood it and apologized.

And we began to talk about life with him again, I asked something about previous relationships, about sex, he told me all sorts of things about himself, and then said that I had promoted him to revelations. And then, damn it, I got carried away. The fact is that I have a history of a couple of unfinished love stories, and these stories were revealed on the eve of our meeting. I told I. about them, said that I needed to deal with them, and also said that I was uncomfortable that I liked him so much. She said that, and then I realized that in principle I was already carrying anything, I had to shut up and go home. Well, I., of course, answered so that I would not worry that he liked me very much and that no one but me was in his heart. But this recognition did not bring me any joy, for I myself recognized the tongs.

This Friday we met again at my place, it was good, dinner, sex, all sorts of tenderness. This time my daughter went to her dad's) Yesterday evening I. called and said that he was passing the hall where I usually study on Sundays, and maybe I was already free and he could give me a lift home. I said that my friend was visiting, and upon returning home I wrote that I did not expect a call and was terribly glad to hear his voice. Here you go.

Now I'm rereading and it seems that everything seems to be fine. But this is what confuses me very much. Before sex, the dynamics of communication and all sorts of cool emotional nishtyak went up, but now it is decreasing more and more. I see that I. began to write less. Does not respond to any tenderness (previously answered and added from above). Today I threw him a link to the film, I write: I must go. He replies: all the films in the box office come out to me according to the link, which one? Me: "Then choose!" and - that's it. I think I'm a fool, to answer like that, he may not really want to (and earlier he would have supported the game). In the evening he writes: how are you? I answer: great, I just missed one awesome man. No reaction. And today, before going to bed, one more message: “The last days I have been too lazy to write something from my phone, but I can tell you so much. And it’s not right to call ... I’ll go to bed, yesterday I fiddled with the phone for a long time, did not get enough sleep. Good night! Kisses". I answer: “I have the same feelings) I want to tell so much, and not even write laziness - I just want a dialogue, not a monologue) Let's meet early tomorrow before the performance. I miss your stories, but perhaps even more - for your voice and your hugs) Bright dreams and sunny morning for you. " He: "And you)". Everything!

And that's, in fact, what torments me. How to behave in such a situation? It seems that they do not send it, but it feels like interest is decreasing, and it is necessary to somehow warm up this interest. And I'm at a loss, how to behave in general when a man seems to lose motivation, interest, ardor? Should I continue to show him tenderness, joy from his messages, impatient anticipation of meetings, write that I want him (and describe exactly how)? Or let him understand this, and if he does not respond in kind, reduce his activity and wait for his initiative? So he seems to be writing - but earlier our correspondence had a completely different character! And meetings are planned, but without this, here is: "I really miss one beautiful girl, when, when will we see each other." How to handle yourself in such situations? I don’t want everything to go and go and go so rotten, I want to give heat, and myself, and him, and a beautiful love story in the end.

Good afternoon, dear readers! Agree, sometimes the behavior of a gentleman changes so unexpectedly that you can only sit and be perplexed by such a change. Why does this happen and what does the man want to say with his behavior? Today I will tell you how to understand that a man wants to end the relationship and what steps you should take in this situation.

Identify the fugitive

To begin with, I suggest you pay attention to Steve Harvey's amazing book “ You don't know anything about men". Do you want to understand their actions, understand the reasons and not be offended by trifles? Then this book is for you. She will reveal some secrets and secrets that you did not even know about.

Now let's figure out how to understand that the gentleman has lost interest in you. Of course, the most striking sign is that he has stopped giving you as much attention as he was before. He or write messages, then he does not pick up the phone at all, referring to employment, an emergency at work, a horde of relatives who suddenly arrived.

If a man abruptly changed his line of behavior, it means that trouble is expected. Young people rarely initiate a breakup themselves. It is much easier and more convenient for them to do everything so that the girl herself makes this difficult decision. This is what he achieves when he stops asking you out on a date, does not want a good night, as before, and does not want to see you at his meeting with friends.

A man may demand back his gift (most often an expensive one), he has ceased to feel desire, there is no more passion in a relationship and you have not had fun in bed for a long time. Meetings are less frequent and more aloof and boring. He does not look directly in the eyes or even allows himself to openly look at other young ladies.

He is not interested in how you are doing, how the day went, what happened at work. He does not ask questions, and answers yours dryly and too restrained. The conversation does not stick, your attempts to find out what the matter is, evades the answer or begins to blame you for being overly suspicious. Frequent scandals, by the way, are also a sure sign that you are not doing well in a relationship.

For your picture to come together correctly, be sure to read the article "". In the meantime, I propose to think about why men do this and how best to behave in such a situation.

What to do

The first thing we will try to do with you is to understand what happened after all. It happens that the guy really just loses interest, and then you just are not on the way. Another option: he either found himself another young lady.

But it also happens that a woman invented herself, but in fact everything is fine. I often witnessed how the girl came up with problems from scratch. Delayed at work - he has another; didn't pick up the phone - he doesn't need me anymore; brought flowers - apologizes for treason.

Dear ladies, be reasonable in your conclusions and reasons. See things realistically. After all, it really happens sometimes that your faithful just has a lot of work to do now.

But if you feel that the relationship is becoming unnecessary for the gentleman, you understand that he wants to break it off, then give yourself and him time. Do not try to press on a man with questions, do not pester him with unnecessary attention, do not torment him with questions. Moreover, if you want to keep the relationship.

Talk calmly, try to part ways, not see each other for a while and not call each other. And while your beloved is thinking, you must take care of yourself. After all, it does not happen that a relationship falls apart just because of one person. Think about what you might have been doing wrong. Watch the movie How to Lose a Boy in 10 Days and consider if you've made all those mistakes?

Also, take care of yourself. In the article "" I explain in detail what attracts men and how you can achieve it. Begin to be interesting to yourself, stop focusing on men, take up work or hobbies, let the guys get your attention, and not vice versa.

And when you start taking care of yourself, then over time you will understand that a man who wants to break off relations with you does not hurt and need you, because there are millions of others around, gallant, polite, caring and affectionate.

Why do you think your beloved is doing this? What is he missing in a relationship or what is he trying to run away from? How often does this situation happen to you?

Love yourself and don't chase relationships just for the sake of the relationship.
Best wishes to you!

You never get a second chance to make a first impression - this is the main rule of a first date. Both women and men should remember about him, because the second date will be only on condition of mutual interest of the two parties.

Now let's get straight to the question - have you ever been denied a second date? We are sorry if you managed to go through such an experience, because what can hurt your self-esteem more than the realization of complete insignificance in the eyes of a representative of the opposite sex, especially if you really wanted to continue communicating with him.

Precisely to prevent such incidents, we want to raise the issue of mistakes that women usually spoil the first impression of themselves. No matter how good, kind and caring you are, presenting yourself in a different perspective, you can never change the first impression of a person who, before this incident, knew absolutely nothing about you.

What is your problem?

The cause of mistakes is most often overconfidence (“I’m already beautiful, let him fall in love with who I am”) and lack of experience. Fortunately, the first and the second can be easily fixed, so let's tackle the problem with self-confidence, and in the process we will gain knowledge and experience to get rid of the rest of the problems.

1. Overconfidence

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In fact, you are in luck, because high self-esteem is much better than low self-esteem - if you are an adequate and intelligent woman, coming to a sound view of yourself and your capabilities will not be difficult for you. So how exactly does overconfidence get in the way of dating?

First, it lowers the sense of responsibility. For your words, actions, appearance - you, roughly speaking, do not worry about anything. A man feels this and such behavior can raise the suspicion that you are not interested in him, that you are not taking him seriously.

It seems as if you came on a date out of boredom or to meet another resident of the friend zone. In short, this is not the path to a serious, loving relationship. Prepare more carefully for dates, be serious and watch yourself.

Don't be afraid to TRY to be good. Eugene Maxlin, individual and family psychotherapist with over 14 years of experience, states the following: “If a woman at the first meeting opines only for what men like, it is quite possible that she is successful, and then thereafter.

If for this you do not listen to yourself and do not act in accordance with your true needs, nothing good will come of it. "

2. You are not in harmony

It's about communication harmony - you talk too much or too little. In the first case, a man may be upset that he did not have time to tell you a couple of interesting things, and also feel like a supporting character, whose opinion, thoughts interest you a little. Don't play with fire.

In the second case, you risk literally losing the man's interest. And how can it even arise if you are silent most of the time? And this is not about creating a "veil of secrecy", it is created deliberately and in a playful manner. If you've tried to do just that, you need a little more experience.

Try to enter into a full-fledged dialogue with a man, try to understand his manner of speaking. It is unlikely that he will immediately go towards harmony, this is a rather rare phenomenon. Most likely, he will prefer to either talk a lot or listen a lot. Give the emu this pleasure, and then introduce your own rules of the game.

3. You are talking about the wrong thing

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Do you know what you can and cannot talk about on a first date? Most likely not, because you consider yourself quite smart and quick-witted person in order to seriously talk about such issues. But you should know, even pick-up artists and “experienced heartbreakers” sometimes rely on themselves too much and raise not entirely correct topics.

With your inappropriate mentions of the former, raising topics about death, politics, religion, you can scare off a potential suitor or, even worse, face him in opinions, making an enemy or rival. Such cases are often found in anecdotes or TV series.

Therefore, do not turn the date into a skirmish about which president lived better under or into crying about what a terrible person your ex was, for whom you do not feel anything at all. The most logical action of a man in this case would be to get up and leave.

4. You do not present yourself from the best side

We talked at the beginning about high self-esteem, now let's remember about low self-esteem. Most often, such girls react rather strangely to compliments. Yes, they are cutely embarrassed, but then they start doing completely unnecessary things and use excuses. "Oh, what are you, what kind of hostess I am, my potatoes burned out yesterday."

Such a reaction is quite natural for humble people, it happens automatically, but try to control such impulses. Nobody forces you to lie to a man, just do not rush to tell him about your shortcomings, he himself will discover them. It is your responsibility to show your best.

5. You climb into his wallet

Has your young man's behavior changed lately, and not for the better? And you so dreamed of an imminent wedding! What to do? Try to save the situation, wait to be dumped, or dump him on her own, without waiting for shame? It all depends on how far it has gone.

Signs that he is ready to jump off the hook:

Sign 1. Your phone is silent.

Until recently, your boyfriend called you several times a week or even several times a day, and now calls are received less and less. He excuses himself by the fact that he is busy at work or at his parent's dacha.

What is behind this: The initial release of other hormones has dried up, and now he is afraid of everyday life, routine and that the relationship will go too far. But he is not ready to leave you yet. Therefore, from time to time he calls to make sure that you are still waiting at the phone.

What to do: Become less approachable and very busy. As soon as he realizes that you are not going to encroach on his personal time at all, he will feel more at ease with you. There is a high probability that your independence will spur him to a new level of relationship.

Wrong tactics: Constantly call him and ask where he disappeared. The consequences of this are usually changing his phone number or blocking yours.

Sign 2. Your sheets are in perfect order.

He's less and less involved with you. Of course, over time, the frequency of having sex decreases for most couples, especially those who have been living together for quite a long time. But if having sex is reduced to almost zero, the likelihood that he has an affair on the side is higher than ever.

What is behind this: Perhaps the reason for this decline is health problems, troubles at work, or serious domestic problems. But it could be worse - he is tired of monotonous sex with you.

What to do: Wait a while to rule out temporary problems that have nothing to do with you. Then prepare a surprise for him: a new sexual play, an erotic massage or an unexpected sexual position. If all else fails, it’s better not to waste time and “just stay friends”.

Wrong tactics: Putting your hands on your hips, ask "head-on" what is the matter. Are nervous creatures, and when it comes to sex, questions like these unsettle them for a long time. It is quite possible that after such a question, he will flee forever.

Sign 3. He is reluctant to make plans for the future.

Or there is no room for you in his plans. Moreover, it is not at all necessary that these are plans for a life together. With the same reluctance, he can make plans for next Sunday - and then God forbid you buy two tickets to the theater without his knowledge.

What is behind this: For him, planning any event in advance means condemning yourself to responsibility and admitting that there really is a certain relationship between you. And he is afraid of it.

What to do: Again, it's best to become unavailable for a while. Plan a few activities with him that don't have room for him. If a guy really cares about you, he'll take the hint.

Wrong tactics: Beg, set firm rules, or abandon activities while suffering alone. And it is better to abandon plans for a long life together for a while. After all, only from your lips the fatal phrase will be heard: "Darling, how many children do you think we will have?"

Sign 4. He makes a speech that he needs more "freedom".

But one thing is clear to you: he spends less and less time with you.

What is behind this: Sometimes this is just a synonym for the word "Goodbye!" But sometimes a man really only needs more personal space. These guys, the less they see, the more they love, and with the gradual development of deeper relationships, they themselves give up their precious freedom.

What to do: Give him this very freedom. Let go of the leash as much as you can without harming yourself. Sometimes subtly remind him of your existence. But if the guy is more "sea captain" than you can handle, let him go for good.

Wrong tactics: Give him no freedom. And then he will soon set off on a "great free voyage", and could only "float away" a little bit.

Sign 5. You start to annoy him.

You suddenly do everything "wrong." Even what he once liked. Not a trace remained of the former indulgence.

What is behind this: He's just tired of you. Often, the guy deliberately begins to show that the separation is not so painful for the girl.

What to do: If you are confident in yourself, do not take criticism personally. As the saying goes, "like water off a duck's back." Although his behavior, alas, most likely means an imminent break in relations. Well, why do you need such a relationship yourself? Forgive and let go.

Wrong tactics: Cry, apologize for your behavior and try to fix something that, in principle, there is no need to fix it.

Sign 6. You just feel it.

The sixth sense tells you that something is wrong between you.

What is behind this: Perhaps it's just paranoia and your lack of self-confidence. Or perhaps there really is a problem in your relationship. Do not completely discount it.

What to do: Try to talk to him frankly and find out what does not suit him in your relationship. And then try to fix the problems that have arisen. Just start the conversation very carefully - men hate such conversations. Therefore, be friendly and let him know that although you really want to be with him and will do everything for this, you will not hold him back if he is uncomfortable with you. Well, if you are uncomfortable with him, then you should first understand yourself and try to understand whether you need to be close to this person.

Wrong tactics: Throwing a "preemptive strike" and throwing the guy first for no reason. If later it turns out that it was just “paranoia”, it will be very difficult, if not impossible, to restore the old relationship.

There are a number of obvious signals that unequivocally say that the chosen one of your heart does not love you. Perhaps he values ​​your friendship, or is he just flattered by your interest in his person? Perhaps he keeps you as an "alternate airfield", but at the same time does not think that he has any obligations towards you?

Well, here are ten of the clearest signs that the man you love has no “we” in your plans with you. Read carefully, and if there are more than two coincidences with your love story, then, believe me, these are no longer coincidences!

Monologue calls

How many of you dial each other's phone number more often? If there is an obvious imbalance on the face, this is not a good sign. In our gadgetized age, these simple things are very indicative: who calls whom first and sends sms-messages, writes letters and hangs funny cats on the wall. Even if your man is happy with your calls, but at the same time he does not need to dial your number himself - just like that or for an insignificant matter - something is wrong here! Well, and the obvious "telephone rule": if you did not answer the call, and he did not ask why - know: he put a big and thick "nothing" on you. Exactly the one that feels for you.

Freeze

Do you feel that your relationship is not moving or developing? You met on the Internet, every evening you have dates on Skype, but you haven't received an invitation to walk at least to the notorious Van Gogh exhibition in a couple of months? Bad sign! If you are colleagues at work and every day go to a business lunch together, but on weekends he always has things and plans in which you are not involved, you can go on the attack and take the initiative to clear your conscience. But be prepared for the fact that he has a hockey match with an amateur team, and it is not known at which stadium, so "to invite-he-you-can't-I'm-sorry." Good advice: find yourself another comrade to eat borscht and cutlets together at work noon!

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Who is there?

The topics that a person raises in a conversation speak a lot both about what he breathes and about his attitude towards the interlocutor. You should be alerted if a man does not ask you about your favorite music and films, does not ask what flowers you like, what was your hobby in childhood, what you do at work, how you spend your free time. If you both have active social media profiles, admit it, it's a little strange if he doesn't like and comment on your posts. It is also significant when he knows that you are a vegetarian, but brings you to a restaurant where you literally have nothing to profit from. And after his stories about former girls - and no matter in what way he speaks about them - all doubts about true feelings for you can be considered dispelled! He does not hear you, does not feel, does not understand, does not respect and, of course, does not love you.

Peacock instinct

Narcissistic and selfish people are incapable of deep feelings. But if a man does not try to show himself handsome in front of a woman of interest to him, does not try to "fluff his feathers", to convey to her the idea that he has many advantages and rare spiritual qualities - this is also very strange. It is even worse if he allows himself to bloom in your presence and regularly complains about fate and bad people who allegedly constantly create problems for him. Beating on pity in order to induce a desire to save is somewhat different than showing yourself worthy of love and respect. Believe me, it's not love that drives him! Perhaps it is a desire to find grateful ears into which he will pour out his resentment against this cruel world. In general, the prognosis is poor.

Seven Sealed Mystery

You only go on dates and only the two of you. He avoids the opportunity to be in the company of your friends and is not eager to introduce you to the circle of people close to him. Getting to know the parents is out of the question. As a result, you alone go to the wedding of your own sister, because he is "shy", "does not know anyone there," and indeed - "hates weddings." A fairly typical situation: someone calls him on the phone, and the man sitting opposite you, when asked where he is and with whom, answers casually: "Yes, with no one." If you do not want to be “nobody” in the life of another person, it’s time to interrupt this story here and now. There will be no happy end.

Strange humor

It also happens that you seem to be together, but at the same time in the company you feel like a loner. Your beloved is actively flirting with other young ladies, does not look after you, and if he lost sight of you at a party, he is not looking for, is not interested in what you are doing, and if you are bored. Things are even worse if he does not take your side in public disputes, and if you are frankly wrong, he does not try to smooth the situation. He watches with interest as you sit in a puddle. If someone rudely runs into you or teases you, he does not give out any harsh reaction, and even he himself does not mind making an offensive joke about you. This is no good! A man in love cannot be indifferent to the feelings and experiences of his chosen one.

Greedy

Maybe in some countries it is considered normal when in a pair both have separate wallets, but in our culture it is still accepted that a man pays, at least, for your coffee at Shokoladnitsa. Of course, the strength of feelings is not measured by the amount of money that the lover spends, but the psychology of a man is simple: he readily invests in what really interests him. Trust me, a normal man has a need to invest in a woman he wants to conquer, or whom he already considers his own! The exception is pathological greedy people, but it turns out to bite through them literally right away. A greedy man is not sexy. He must be thrown mercilessly. A man with whom it makes sense to build a relationship is generous and ready to throw the whole world at the feet of his beloved, even if he is not rich. Honestly, he will find an opportunity to make you gifts and pleasant surprises! He will offer his help and try to anticipate your desires. If this does not happen, everything is sad.

Anti-sex

It is clear that people have different needs and opportunities for sex. But a relationship that ensues is the very case when desire seeks opportunity, and indifference seeks excuses. So if “your” man avoids intimacy in every possible way, he has a thousand urgent matters, he is constantly tired or not in the mood - something is wrong here! This does not mean at all that he has another. He just doesn't care about you as a woman. Another case is if a man is gentle and affectionate before sex and immediately loses interest in you after. If at the same time you notice that he, in principle, began to touch you less often - he does not try to hug, take by the hand, his kisses blows cold, and your attempts to fondle are ignored - get ready to part! It's sad, but there is hardly anything to help here, and it's not you or your "technique". There are practically no chances to rekindle the extinct passion, no matter how many "geisha trainings" convince you otherwise. And to light a fire that did not immediately flare up is a hopelessness that is not worth your time. You don't want a friend zone, do you?

The patient is more likely dead than alive

Everything was fine with you, as you thought. And suddenly he began to avoid meetings, forget about your requests, and instead of an intelligible reason for his forgetfulness, he presents some helpless stories from the series "walked-fell-woke up-plaster." A man who is preparing to "merge" from a relationship suddenly deteriorates health: he regularly twists his legs, picks up a sore throat, is poisoned with potatoes at McDonald's. Terrible diseases fall on his grandmothers, aunts, friends and aquarium fish: you need to accompany or take them to hospitals, wait for the arrival of an ambulance, and wander around the city in search of a rare medicine. Catch him on incoherent inventions? This is not a royal affair! It's just time to say goodbye. No matter how bitter it is.

Who calls names - he is called so!

When everything is smooth in a relationship, and you communicate nicely, it may seem to you that "everything is going according to plan." Is this really so - the first quarrel will show. Just don’t provoke a conflict on purpose! Sooner or later, in any pair, a situation occurs when each of the two considers himself to be right, and the other is not. How you will survive an acute situation, how reconciliation will take place, what words you will choose in order to dot the "Y", will show the true attitude of your man towards you, and will also tell a lot about his character. If it is important for him that his word is the last, if in the heat of the moment he allows himself to offend you, becoming personal, if he goes into deep insult and forces you to humiliate yourself, blackmails by breaking, sets some conditions of reconciliation - just turn around and leave. Still, from a strong man you should expect condescension to women's weaknesses and whims. In the same situation, there is not a word about love for anyone, except for himself - a beautiful alpha male who needs to be served and please in everything. Such a man is either a notorious wicked person, or a weakling. In any case, he is not suitable for building long and lasting relationships.

So the sad truth has become apparent to you. He doesn't love you. It doesn't matter how long you've been together, how far your relationship has gone. Alas, it happens. Not every union of a man and a woman ends with a fairy tale where the heroes live happily ever after. Remember the ancient Indian proverb: "The horse is dead - get off!" Then you have two ways.

The first is how to suffer, get sick, cheer up and again plunge into a busy life, in which there will be wonderful adventures, interesting acquaintances and new relationships. And they will - do not even dare to doubt!

The second is the path in accordance with the age-old female mistake: to be aware of yourself only through the man who is nearby. But if you are sure that you have just lost the love of the man of your dreams, start the operation, codenamed "Falling in love with him again." There are no guarantees that everything will work out, and it is not known how long it will take. But you will do deep work on mistakes and work on yourself. Because you are valuable in yourself. There is no relationship in which you could invest - invest in yourself doubly. And so, the task for the next five-year plan has already changed constructively! - Become a super woman, the best version of yourself. And then you will see who you will need next. Maybe superman? For harmony.

I will tell you exactly what should not be done in any case:

do not humiliate yourself,
do not make a claim
do not scream
do not cry in front of him.

How could that help if he doesn't give a damn about you?

There is also no need to lead him to a "frank conversation": why learn from him that everything is over between you, if you yourself understood it?
You shouldn't bother him with calls and sms. You will only raise the degree of irritation with your person and convince the person of your inadequacy.
You don’t have to go all out to knock out a wedge with a wedge - it’s checked: it doesn’t help.
Don't run on fortune-tellers! This is no comment at all.